The natural process of
death / destruction and rebirth / upbuilding – ebb and flow. And how to get through it.
We all have those periods in our lives where it feels like everything is crashing down over our heads. Maybe even to the point where we just want to pack our bags and leave everything behind – to start afresh in a brand-new place.
Going through that process of destruction, that it really is, is actually necessary for us to level up. But being in the midst of it is rarely an amusing experience, to say the least.
So what happened to the romantic notion of “heal
The below is likely a more accurate account of what raising your vibration looks and feels like…
- Your relationship with the love of your life is cranky, full of miscommunication, misunderstandings and on the point of a breakdown.
- Your kids act up.
- The kitchen sink is clogged for days and hard to fix.
- The car that you just got fixed has yet another (expensive) issue.
- The money you thought would come in doesn’t.
- Extra unexpected bills show up
- The projects you know you should start and do, you can’t, because you have no energy.
- Your health is down the drains and clogged, just like your kitchen sink.
- You might be seconds from having an anxiety attack or in constant fight-or-flight mode – or plain, old depressed.
- Basically, the entire future you envisioned for yourself suddenly seems threatened or like a distant dream.
- You are at a total loss of what you actually want and what direction to head in
- And so on…
Healing yourself is a messy process
While the goal is definably worth the trouble, healing yourself, up-leveling your manifestation process, raising your vibration and evolving spiritually is rarely the pretty sight that most of us imagine.
Especially not when thinking general “healing, vibration, and manifestation”.
And certainly not anything like the pretty pictures of people in meditation pose – calm, peaceful and happy – as portrayed in certain Facebook memes.
When you heal yourself and raise your vibration, you often go through a seriously messy process.
It is the releasing of old and outdated energies and patterns, that has to give way, be healed and released. This is so new and more positive (higher vibration) can enter your life. And very often it is energies and patterns that have carried over from previous lives and are finally ready to go.
Because yes, sometimes things really do have to fall all apart in order to be re-assembled in the right and very much aligned way.
Especially, if we have not listened to our sixth sense or gut feeling, but made choices from our heads, rather than our hearts.
You know you have to get back into alignment, to that feel-good place in order to change it, but simply can’t find your way.
The more desperately you try to fix everything, to become happy, the more it seems to have the opposite effect and break apart.
When nothing seem to make sense anymore
And you, as the human being you are, is barely hanging in there, thinking
“Am I on the right track”, “did I make the right choice when…”, “should I actually have done something differently than…”, “am I right to trust/not trust this or that…”…
Or maybe the entire direction in which you had figured you’d walk, you are now questioning.
It will be ok
There is a likelihood of you being at the point of actually giving up.
To walk away from everything, because you feel desperate and at loss at what to actually do.
All you need is love, understanding, and support from your loved ones, but you’re in the process of upgrading. Sorry to break it to you sweetheart, but you’re not getting it just yet.
At least not in a form you currently understand.
And while you’re hanging in there by the tip of your nails only, it seems that nothing is turning out as you wanted, dreamed for or expected.
And you just don’t know how or where to go from here.
Sounds even remotely familiar?
Just know this.
It is normal, and way more than you might realize.
Everybody goes through this, from time to time (although few are brave enough to admit it).
And most importantly, there is hope.
Everything in life comes in cycles
You see, everything in life comes in cycles.
Ebb and flow.
Spring and fall.
Death and rebirth.
Destruction and rebuilding.
Like the Phoenix, that builds itself anew from the ashes, so do we, as humans, need to go through the process of destruction, in order to rebuild and raise our vibration.
In order to spiritually evolve.
In order to become more whole, fuller, better, happier and more complete versions of ourselves.
Over and over again.
And anything in our lives will have to either grow with us, or fall away in the process.
The letting go can be tough
Now, especially that last part of falling away is something we often trip over.
It is hard and scary to be prepared to and actually let go of anything that doesn’t serve us anymore.
Anything or anyone not willing to grow with us.
Anyone not willing to support and understand us, even if that is all we long for.
Even if this is our process, not theirs.
Now, I’m not saying you should abandon your kid or your significant other, just because things are rough.
If we did that every time, it would defy the purpose of actually having kids and being in relationships. Of being in a human body.
What I am saying is that you might find, that what you once thought was perfectly aligned, might no longer be. Or maybe needs a slight adjustment.
If your surroundings are good on adapting to change, and they too realize that we all grow and evolve, you’re in a lucky spot.
And as such, they can support you from a place of nurturing and non-judgment.
Or at least from a point of acceptance.
If your close ones are willing to try their best to come from a place of patience and understanding what is going on within you, and maybe, just maybe, even grow with you.
Even if you might have to explain to them what the heck is going on (which, in general, is sound advice). So they can better understand that it is a process within you that is natural and has to be allowed.
And it will not continue. It is a cycle that will come to an and.
But even if they don’t not all is lost.
Acknowledge and accept a transition is going on within you
Try to not force the outcome into something, that fit our previous dreams. As those dreams might no longer be in alignment with you, because they too, need to upgrade – to become better, or maybe something entirely different.
This can be hard, I know.
We all dream of something, and sometimes those dreams turn out to be going in a totally different direction.
And as we have a hard time accepting and letting go and let it evolve on its own, into something new and different – and likely better.
The more we resist, the more trouble we feel finds us.
We no longer know where we’re going.
We try to force/control the outcome out of desperation, and because our human minds like to know the plan beforehand.
Without the plan, we get scared deep down.
We feel lost.
We need the emptiness from time to time
But understand, that we need that emptiness, and the preceding chaos, in order to make space for something else.
Space for something better, whether a new, upgraded version of the same or an entirely new vision.
But we won’t know if we don’t allow for that space to be there.
And we can’t allow that space to exist if we don’t acknowledge and accept, that we are in fact in transition.
That we need to sit with it and feel it and let it be what it is.
That we need to allow it to happen.
To feel the crappy feelings, in order to release.
To stop worrying and start trusting.
That by allowing, we ultimately will arrive at a new and better version, even if right now it seems scary.
You have to forgive, in order to let go
Yeah, I know,
This is a hard one for most of us.
Especially when we’re transitioning, everything seem to go haywire and, naturally, is often mostly noticed within our close relationships – the people we love.
That also means that as we try to “fix” things, in order to feel better, we are often misunderstood.
So our fixing is taken and understood as us creating more problems (unless
And as such, we simply need to learn to Let. That. Shit. Go.
No matter what has been said and done, who did what, when and why.
Sometimes we simply have to clean the slate and start anew.
And learn to accept the apologies we never got.
I know it’s not easy.
But it is doable if you choose it to be.
In order to release something, we have to forgive.
Now whether we choose to keep those persons in our lives after forgiveness, very much depends on what has been done. Was it morally or ethically wrong?
Was it something so unbearable to our soul, that we cannot accept that person in our lives, unless we at least receive an apology, so as to know, that it will never happen again?
Or is it we ourselves that has to relax a little and maybe stop seeing ghosts, where there is none? Or to be more forgiving?
Try this simple
Letting that sh*t drain you is toxic for your soul. Let it go.
You can heal yourself and the situation
If you have received a Reiki healing attunement, try healing yourself and the situation.
Healing is an amazing tool to not only cleanse and detox your mind, emotions and energy bodies. It also helps and supports you to raise your vibration.
It supports you in cleansing, healing, aligning and balance your chakras, which in turn works wonders for the rest of your being.
To know how to heal yourself is vital, actually.
If you would like to become a Reiki Master and in 3 weeks learn how to heal and balance yourself in as little as 5 minutes, click here.
If not, you can ask a healer to help you, either by an in-person or distant Reiki healing session.
By balancing your chakras and grounding yourself frequently, do breath work and generally be mindful of caring and nurturing yourself, you can aid your transition tremendously.
I am a healer, and while in transition (which actually seem to happen more and more often and quicker, than it used to) one of my most basic and super effective tools, is the fact that I use Reiki healing on myself.
All. The. Time.
And it helps.
It relaxes me, gets my brain and mind to wind down, it helps me to create a better and more positive outlook.
It releases my stress, worries, and fears.
And helps me to forgive not just others, but – even more importantly – myself too and accept the changes a transition is always bringing with it.
Again, I’m not saying it is always easy, but it is very much doable.
A Soul cleanse speeds up the process and clears the way
Another thing you can do is find an experienced Akashic Records counselor with whom you resonate, who can perform a Soul Cleanse for you, in the Akashic Records.
In short, what a soul cleansing/healing does, is it heals and releases all the nitty, gritty energies and karmic reactions of past issues, that have now surfaced because they are ready to be released.
(That is why you’re going through all this, remember? – you’re upgrading, so old stuff has to be released for you to level up).
It clears them for you, giving you a freash, clean slate to start from.
This creates an immediate cleansing effect that ripples down through the dimensions and speeds up the process of releasing all those weird energies that have been causing trouble.
It heals you at the soul level, quick-cleanses the mud out of the pond so to speak, and expedites your spiritual development.
Never underestimate the power of yoga and meditation
Meditation, and especially taking time to nurture yourself, really is key, in transitioning those changes in a (relatively) calm and clear manner.
Yeah, I know, this is often one of the first places we neglect ourselves in times of stress, where it is actually one of the first tools we should turn to.
I forget it too.
There are tons of meditation guides out there, online free or paid classes, tons of articles on the benefit of meditation and so on, so I will not go much into the how and why here.
Just know – and take this as a friendly reminder – that the ability to calm your mind, and make an effort to practice every day, is key.
Especially while in transition and waiting (oh-so-impatiently) for the full upgrade to set in and finally achieve peace and clarity again.
Just hang in there
Remember, it is temporary.
When you upgrade, you are taking long strides with 7-mile boots. You will get out on the other side.
And the more you welcome and allow the ebb and flow, reflect and transmute, the easier the process will be.
The less you try to force it, the easier it will come to you.
It likely isn’t the first time you go through something like this, and I’m pretty sure it won’t be the last either. So you might as well train yourself to allow and get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
It is all about navigating through those messy times, allowing, not resisting. And
This way we give both them and our selves a chance when we behave as emotional wrecks.
Don’t forget to comment below with your reflections on raising your vibration. And I would love to hear about your process or any questions you have. You can either send me a direct message or connect with me on Social Media.
Much Love to you – on a Valentines day.
Remember, you are the greatest love of your life <3
- The Warrior Queen
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